Anyone looking at a map knows that the clean line which marks the separation between countries does not reflect reality. So it is with CRR Global communities on this continent and across the world.

​As neighbouring countries sharing the same long border, Canada and the United States cannot help but affect one another. The relationship between us doesn’t fit into tidy outlines. Edges blur across geography and in relationship, as complex systems interact.

Recently, our parent company CRR Global has been exploring ways to simplify the experience for our clients and community. This means that starting in 2023, we will be relaxing geographic boundaries and sharing more spaces between these communities.

Pausing for the purpose of giving thanks is built into our national culture, even recognized as a national holiday. While it can be easy to let rituals of thanksgiving slide by on a superficial level, making a habit of gratitude actually supports wellbeing when it extends beyond the surface. A true expression of appreciation can be deeply meaningful, cushioning the challenges that can arise when relationship becomes difficult. 

There is a reason why gratitude is embedded in spiritual and religious practice, and an argument can be made for consciously cultivating it in our daily lives. It turns out that counting our blessings is good for us, both as individuals and as part of the larger systems to which we belong. 

In giving thanks for what we appreciate, we cultivate a Metaskill which permeates and reinforces the systems we serve.

What does it take for a relationship to flourish? 

After emerging from a prolonged period of forced togetherness during the pandemic, many couples find themselves looking for a relationship reset. Is it possible to reignite a relationship which has gone stale? For Maddie Weinreich, MCC, ORSCC, the answer is a decided yes. 

“Although we may have longed for this involvement and had a magical beginning together, we often find ourselves complaining about our partner. As couples, we know how to push each other’s buttons,” Maddie says.

​“Yet there’s a commitment in place, and many reasons to make the relationship work. We long for intimacy and the return to our original myth.”

Are you walking the talk of right relationship in your working partnerships?

The Alchemy course turns the lens of Organization and Relationship Systems Coaching (ORSC™) on these partnerships - specifically, on any situation where two people are co-facilitating in tandem. 

Thanks to an Alchemy demo by CRR Faculty members Lori Shook and Judy van Zon, our Next Great Chapter community members had a quick taste of the art and science of co-facilitation. Lori originated the program in partnership with the late Jim Patterson as well as CRR Global co-founders Marita Fridjhon and Faith Fuller. She emphasizes that the co-facilitation relationship is the foundation for any coaching, teaching or partner-led session. 

Trigger warning: This article contains details about CRR Global co-founder Faith Fuller’s experiences with cancer, which may be upsetting for some readers.

For Faith Fuller, coming to terms with her cancer has been akin to a shaman’s journey. 

“Every relationship with a life-threatening illness is profoundly personal and intimate. It affects everything,” she says. “You can either dance with it or fight with it. Usually we do both.”

After her diagnosis with a form of endometrial cancer last year, developing an intentional relationship with the disease became Faith’s top priority. As she entered treatment, she discovered a different identity that came along with the diagnosis, as well as a cohort of travelers who were journeying with her along the same cancer road.

For several years the USA has been navigating a massive state of emergence, with all of the disruption that accompanies it. Tensions are also flaring at the global level. Having grown up in South Africa during apartheid, the conflict and polarity feels to me like deja vu. In some ways, it is even worse.

​We do not yet know what is trying to emerge in these frequently fiery conflicts. Most of us have little individual influence over the larger whole, but we can choose to navigate conflict within our own communities.

​If your team members are less than enthusiastic about the thought of yet another virtual meeting, you are not alone. Like it or not, online calls have become an undeniable part of the way we now work. As relationship systems coaches and leaders, we rely on face-to-face interactions. How can we encourage people to feel passionate about mutual purpose, supported, and part of a team when they are working across town, across the country, and even across the planet? 

Fortunately, the same skillset we draw on in Relationships Systems Intelligence (RSI™) can help us to maintain connection in remote teams.

Like other organizations, we had a learning curve to navigate as we translated in-person Organization and Relationship Systems (ORSC™) courses to an online format. So much of ORSC relies on the invisible signals we receive from one another. Would it be possible to see, hear, feel and sense the system through a screen? 

Yes! By adding best practices from RSI, we can carry this awareness with us into the virtual world and avoid Zoom fatigue in coaching teams.

In their new book “Systems Inspired Leadership,” Frank Uit de Weerd and Marita Fridjhon have created a resource to support leaders as they tap into the collective wisdom of teams and systems. 

Frank, an organizational psychologist, first approached Marita in December 2018 with the idea of creating a guide for leaders which would incorporate the principles behind the ICF-accredited Organization and Relationship Systems Coaching (ORSC™) series. Systems coaches have been using these concepts for over two decades to support transformational change.

The result of the collaboration is a fresh, systems-based approach to leadership with Relationship Systems Intelligence (RSI™) at its core. Leaders are better able to create the strong web of relationship required to tap into collective wisdom and skillfully navigate conflict, complexity and change. In a world that is becoming increasingly more complex and fast-changing, this is powerful. 

In this interview, Frank and Marita talk about why Systems Inspired Leadership applies to social change as well as business, why relationship matters, and how using these tools to shift the paradigm of leadership can help address the complexity of wicked problems the USA now faces.

Part 3 of the Cultivating Belonging Series • Meet, Reveal, Align & Act


“You cannot change any society unless you take responsibility for it, unless you see yourself as belonging to it and responsible for changing it.” • Grace Lee Boggs
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According to Webster, "belonging" means to feel a sense of connection - to a place, a group, a country. At this moment in the United States, it may seem that more divides than unites us. 

In 1858, speaking of the growing disconnect which would eventually lead to the Civil War, Abraham Lincoln warned "a house divided cannot stand." Can we, trained in Relationship Systems Intelligence (RSI™), use these principles, tools and skills to find alignment in our country’s culture?

We all have a vested interest in creating belonging, and moving forward involves cultivating connection in contexts great and small. According to the needs outlined in Maslow’s Hierarchy, belonging is a more basic requirement than prestige or feelings of accomplishment.

Currently, it does feel as if prestige and accomplishment, social status and systemic racism is seriously hampering the sense of belonging that can come with valuing diversity.  

Whether your goal is to encourage belonging within a community, to navigate discord in a business environment, or to find points of alignment between differing ideologies, connection begins with a conversation.

Part 2 of the Cultivating Belonging Series • Conscious Connection in a Time of Isolation

Imagine aerialists in a high wire act - how they must retain a deep awareness of one another to maintain their sense of balance at a precarious height. In a pandemic year, we too find ourselves in a balancing act, with the movement of one affecting us all.

For many in the United States, our social construct created distinct environments for home, work and school. As the pandemic took hold, the lines blurred and our comfortable habits disappeared overnight.

Isolation and physical distancing now require us to interact with the outside world through the portal of a computer screen.

When it comes to fostering a sense of belonging, texts and emails are not the same as face-to-face meetings. In her Ted Talk referenced in Part 1 of this series, Susan Pinker explains the importance of connecting live. Eye contact and physical interaction release oxytocin, helping to build trust, while reducing cortisol levels, which lowers stress. 

The work of Elizabeth Redcay at the University of Maryland supports Pinker. Redcay’s research found in her research that brain activity is significantly higher during live, dynamic interactions than while watching a static presentation.

This research casts new light on our collective loss of a sense of belonging, and reveals some of the impact that physical distancing has on our mental well-being.